The Blogging Paradox

Blogging has always been a strange place.

It’s supportive yet horrifying.

Like a hug from your mum whilst being jabbed in the ribs with a fork. 

It can be lonely, but it can also be a place where you never feel alone.

It is a total paradox.

I took a break from writing my thoughts. Mainly because I needed to free some space up in my tiny tiny brain.

But since returning, it has felt different.

Being away from it all, you can look back on it and see the cliques. The people who like to shout the loudest but back down as to not danger themselves with being someone who stirs.

It is super easy to pick them out when you stay silent.

Blogging has always been a place for different opinions. Whether it’s how you raise you children, the food you feed them and the way you school them, the difference is what makes it interesting.

It makes it a place to learn.

But then when you try and write about something that has been on your mind, something that sounds so ridiculous, but really could happen, you are wrong.

Because suddenly having an opinion makes it okay for people to poke, prod, belittle and throw snide insults.

I can read something, be offended, give my own opinion and move on. Because we are all different.

The world would be incredibly boring if we all agreed.

Having a difference of views and opinions doesn’t make a person bad, it doesn’t change them. It just makes them more interesting. 

So it looks like blogging has become a place you can have an opinion and openly talk about it, but only if everyone else agrees.

You are by no means allowed to be honest, look at real facts or spark a debate.

Because someone might not agree. And that’s bad.

It’s like I have gone back to the playground and I will tell on you if you dont agree! 



Is This The Blog Baby Generation?! – With annotations.

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THE EDIT: People seem to be up in arms about the post. Even though I totally highlight the fact that that is NOT what I was saying. Several times. I had this worry when I read a blog post a year or so back. Now I cannot name and shame, because unless you have a huge following you cannot do that. I read a post from a lady who planned to get pregnant, she wanted to blog her journey to gain sponsorship. She was very open about the fact she wanted SPONSORSHIP for having a baby.

So let’s re-read shall we?!

Babies. They are everywhere. Naturally. – Babies happen. I love babies too.

But something has me wondering, are we in danger of having a “blog baby” generation? – A question

Now, I don’t mean people writing and documenting their child’s journey. I am talking about having babies for the sake of your blog. 

It’s no secret in the blogging world that if you are a pregnant blogger who documents their pregnancy, your stats will inflate even slightly.

Pregnant people all over the world, including myself back in the day, will search all sorts of pregnancy related things. From the amount of weeks they are, to odd cravings and strange symptoms, when people are pregnant they take to the internet for answers.

Those answers often come blogs. – Because blogs are there for information.

Now, I am in no way talking about people who are growing their families because that was the plan or they just want to, I am talking about idea that a small minority may be having babies for their blog?


I know, gasp.

How dare I.

But with the inflation of stats come the products on offer. From all the latest feeding gadgets to top of the line pushchairs,  review requests will come flooding in. Mainly because there won’t be a vast amount of pregnant bloggers at any one time. So it automatically makes them top of every list.

Same with blogging awards. There will only be a select number of pregnant or young baby bloggers at any one time, so the chance of them being nominated and included is almost guaranteed. – This is how some people see it, they must do IF the lady from the beginning was so hell bent on receiving all new products and sponsorship from companies for HAVING HER BABY.

Meaning more blog promotion.

More wonderful things being sent their way. – Obviously for the lady in question this was a thing.

So could it be possible, that someone, somewhere could decide to have another baby for the sake of their blog? – Could do, and it’s a question.

It’s certainly not impossible.

It makes you wonder if soon, or even now, we will have children brought into this world for the sake of blogging alone? – Again a question not a statement. 

I hope not. – this is me hoping IT DOESNT HAPPEN.

So, after re-reading time and time again, I regularly point out that THIS IS NOT PREGNANT BLOGGERS IN GENERAL. This is something that COULD happen. This is something SOMEONE TRIED TO MAKE HAPPEN!

I worry that people like to censor things they don’t agree with these days. Like if your opinion is different I am BAD. But in reality we don’t all think the same.

People have children to get houses. To trap men. To sell and make money. So why is it so bad to wonder if people could maybe have a child for the sake of blogging?

Yes it’s silly. Yes I didn’t have the time to pee on my own or take a poop when I had a baby, but some people do!

I am not saying its pregnant bloggers in general. I am saying that this ladies post made me worry that this could happen?!

What if it becomes a thing?! That is not fair on the child. That is in no way normal.

If anything, it is horrendous this person was so open about being given money for something so many people struggle to have, which is terrible.

But like anything else, be it from parents who choose not to breastfeed being BAD or parents who give their kids dummies are LAZY. How is it okay for those things to be written and asked but not this?!

I don’t get it.


Turning My Back On Choices

I made a video recently about my current choice to stop my treatment. You can view that here. Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE 😛

Anyway, I had my last IV, I am coming to the point I would be due back in for a top up in the coming weeks, I am coming to the point where I am comfortable with my choice.

Right now I can’t turn back without going back in to see my neuro, which is fine with me. I don’t want to go back. I don’t want to wait. I am ready now.

One of the things that is becoming far clearer to me is that the longer you go without the tysabri, the more you feel again.

The more you can feel those emotions, the more you can enjoy those emotions, the more human you feel.

I have to say I have always noticed how little I could feel or think for myself. Without struggling to understand or deal with the feelings in a “normal” way.

I am not overwhelmed by feeling happy. I can laugh until I pee and I can really enjoy the laughter.

Something that I have been thinking about more and more is having a break from any treatment. So I would push it back until after the Christmas season. So I can feel the season. So I can enjoy the whole thing. The sounds and the smells. The kids, the fun and all the love of my family.

I want to feel again.

I want to start the new treatment, but I want to spend a few months feeling and living in every moment. Before I feel like I am just going through the motions because my body is full of a drug that has so much control.

I can’t explain it. I don’t understand it, but I know that I can feel it.

I understand that I will be back in that wheelchair. That I will need help to walk, but I know full well I will feel every single moment. 

I guess I want to live side by side with my MS for a while. Before going back into a new treatment full of new feelings.




Doc McStuffins Pet Vet Twitter Party! #DocMcStuffins

So, here we are in October of all months. This month is a special one. We have a huge Halloween party coming up! But also we are hosting a Doc Mcstuffins Pet Vet Party!!!


On the 15th of October we will being having guests galore, games and a lot of dancing. Please remember to head over to twitter on the 15th of October at 1pm to tweet along with the hashtag #DocMcstuffins to watch the madness unfold and to win some pet vet prizes of your own!

Dont forget to follow @UKMumsTV and me @thehazelkey AND use the Hashtag #DocMcStuffins

I will see you there 😉

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Online Friends ARE NOT REAL

This is a post I have been thinking about for a while.

Having a blog online has opened up many things for my family and me. One of the biggest things is friendship. 

My facebook contains mainly people I know online, with only a handful of friends from school.

And I like it that way. Those people get me. I chose those people to see into our lives that little bit more.

A few months ago, some totally narrow-minded fool made the idiotic comment on how my online friends were not real.

They couldn’t possibly be my friends. They don’t care. They are not real. They are not who they say they are.

To that I say, BULLSh*t

Most of the “fake people” I talk to online I have met. I have spent real time with.

In fact, my best most closest friend in the world is someone I met online.

Her family have become a part of mine. We go on trips and visit each other. We talk all day long on facetime. We have the oddest in-jokes known to man. Yes we fight and we disagree but when push comes to shove, we’re family.

I am lucky enough to call some fabulous bloggers my friends. They are supportive, they listen, they care and they can take the world by storm if they need to.

They are people you feel honored to have on your side.  People who have your back when the poo hits the proverbial fan.

I have seen these “fake people” change lives.

Yes, there are some crazy people online who pretend to be someone else, but you can usually pick out those oddballs pretty fast.

I think these friendships formed online are becoming more and more prominent. The internet connects you with people who many not have otherwise known, and that is amazing.

So to anyone who doubts the connections made online are real or important. I feel for you. Being so cut off and cynical must be horrid.

Because me and my best friend do all sorts of awesome…

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